HAPPILY EVER AFTER
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
Where is my happily ever after?
As a counsellor and adviser to men and women I cannot tell you the amount of times I've heard these plaintive words from unhappy people, asking me to help them. There are so many of us out there wondering how we ended up in the life we are in right now.
We’re bewildered and disappointed that our romantic lives just haven’t turned out the way we thought they would; that our marriages are not at all how we imagined and dreamed they would be.
When we were young, free and innocent we had no idea what was ahead of us in terms of our relationships with ourselves, let alone each other. Nearly all of us at some stage sit and reflect and look back on our lives and wonder what happened to being with the man or women of our dreams? What happened to being swept off our feet or even rescued or saved from the world by our Prince Charming? What happened to our aspirations of living a great family life where the love for our wife or husband effortlessly enhanced our life and continues to grow and blossom every day with minimal effort.
How is it that other men or women find their perfect match effortlessly? If this is your life right now? Are you cheesed off, fed up, upset or disillusioned? Then keep on reading, because this blog is especially for you!
When you are constantly questioning your life experience and demanding to know why you aren’t living your happily ever after, take note, you won't ever bring it into your existence! Energetic alignment is very real.
From the moment we’re old enough to understand fairy tales, we are sold a fake narrative and a lie. We grow up watching a Disney fantasy of how life should and will turn out for us eventually. We are fed a story of how we will struggle, and then miraculously our "Prince Charming" or "perfect model partner" - if you’ll excuse the pun - will come along and save us. And then, hey presto! we’ll fall in love and get married, just like that.
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
Even when we are older that narrative continues to plague our everyday existence. We are surrounded by romantic movies, false aspirational advertising, and embellished fictional erotic books with unrealistic expectations that sell us the idea of a perfect romance and a perfect relationship. And the moment that happens, we’ll all just fall into alignment with "the one" and then boom, we will get married and live happily ever after.This is one of the reasons I set about writing a series of erotic fiction books based on my own story and that of my ex-model friends. I wanted to create a series that was empowering and uplifting for women and for men but at the same time grounded in authenticity and universal laws.
When I sat down and put pen to paper to create Model Redress, the first book in my five book series, I was living a life of destitution and destruction. Having been used, abused, cheated-on and left for dead, I used those experiences as my fuel to pour my heart out into the first few chapters. Then, as the book grew in momentum, slowly and beautifully, it transformed into a beautiful story of hope, retribution, success, love and redress.
My life became my book, the characters became my real life friends, my life in America like the main character in Model Redress.
This photo was taken of me in Charleston, South Carolina, my second home
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
The moral of the story is that as I began to vibrate in this glorious energy, my real life began to fall into alignment with the book itself. My life became my book, the characters became my real life friends, my life in America like the main character Mattie. I even manifested all my business interests right down to their very names! Everything came into fruition, every little piece of myself fell together like a brilliant puzzle.
And that puzzle can work for all of us. We need to have faith in ourselves and the Universe to create the final puzzle and destination that we desire.
When we do settle and get married, because that's what society expects of us, we naturally start comparing our own marriage to this perfect fictionalised fantasy, as though we were living the reality of a Hollywood movie. Even our friends will tell little white lies about how great things are at home, while probably living in denial about how bad things really are. Or worst still, they’re hiding domestic violence.
Unfortunately, I have seen many marriages crumble under the strain of unrealistic expectations and lack of real authentic deep mature love. Proceeding on from that, many of us grow bitter and resentful that our life hasn't panned out the way we were told or imagined it would and then things get steadily, unrelentingly worse.
But think about this, "what are we really comparing our lives to"? We’re comparing it to something that does not even exist, and it’s this which causes increased friction and turmoil in our lives.
The thoughts and beliefs we hold are damaging our vibration by putting out negative energy and attracting the very thing we don't want to bring into our existence.
What we imagine, what we think about, we bring about! What we say that we don't want in a partner, we then get.
None of us is perfect and none of us is immune to bad choices, but our bad choices are never mistakes... read that again if you need to. Our bad choices are NEVER mistakes. Let THAT sink in!!
When we are real and authentic about why we have experienced the lessons we have had in our past relationships, and why we needed to experience what we have in order to grow, then when we take responsibility - no matter how bad, how terrible, how disappointing, or terrifying - then we can accept our reality and not spend a lifetime wasting our time and attracting more of the same! Trust me, I know! I’ve been there! I’ve done that! And I’ve learned the hard way! You only have to read my autobiography "Counting Feathers" to see that!
Our culture seems to facilitate an artificiality of relationships, it hides the crap, the shit, the boredom and even the abuse and teaches us to do this as well!!
When our young people are learning from media portrayals of behaviours in romantic relationships in order to gain insight into how they themselves could behave in their own relationships, we have a serious problem on our hands. Especially now when the mainstream media is telling us there's "no mum and dad anymore." Instead, we’re faced with buzz-words like "gestational carrier” instead of mother. Oh, and there’s no such thing as breast feeding anymore; rather we now nurture out children with "chest feeding"!
How ridiculous! How preposterous! How insulting to our very being!
There's also no gender anymore, no more boy or girl in the school yard. Instead, children are now "gender neutral"! God help us all!
If we are really honest with ourselves we will know in our hearts that this current push to do away with centuries of family traditions, just feels totally wrong. Of course you may be the exception to the rule, and you are free to make your own choices, regardless of what the media and government or anyone else around you may say, but that is what they are - your choices - and I hope that your choices have come from who you are and not who you are told you are, or who you are told you must be to fit in.
When we are living our truth, real love and romance can find its way into our path.
Its basic universal law that we must love ourselves unconditionally first, so that we can love another. We must also offer another the love we would like to have given to us. In the ancient philosophies of Egypt, India, Greece and Rome, the universal Golden Rule was ‘Do to others what you wish would be done to you.”
When we remove the veil that has been drawn over us for so long, when we drop the expectations that the world owes us something, then we can truly live.
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
Also spending time around authentic loving kind individuals will help attract towards us good luck and authentic love into our own lives. Examples of healthy relationships that are based on true love, respect, kindness, generosity, and trust are all around us; we just need to look in the right places.
They are the elderly at our local bus stop who may need help, or they are be sitting for warmth and companionship in a town’s library and all they want is a friendly smile and a word of kindness. The charities always need the hands on helpers, the volunteers in our communities, the survivors and mentors.
When we look at what we are doing to better the world for those around us - and not what others are doing for us - and when we appreciate the simple things in life, then our lives will fill with joy and abundance.
When we demand that others should treat us like this, or like that, do this or that for us, then in order for us to be happy and to feel as though we have a great relationship or life then you will be constantly disappointed.
If you’re not happy or fulfilled, then being brutally frank and honest, you only have yourself to blame. There’s no point in blaming fate or circumstance or other people. We ALL have it in us to change our circumstances…..even those who feel we’re trapped.
I am a princess, not because I have a prince, but because I grew my own orchard of fruit.
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
Everything outside of yourself and your control is either none of your business or a bonus. If whats around you sucks, move, step aside, change direction. Always go towards the light. If your current partner is open to learning new positive ways, then assist them to rise. But if they cannot help themselves with your help, it’s not your job or responsibility to enable them. That only does you and them a disservice. Perhaps it’s not their time, not their path, not their evolution right now. It’s not your business to try fix them, you may only lead them to a better way; universal law states you should never demand or force.
It’s your moral and spiritual obligation to support and love yourself.
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MPOWERUSLEEZA
You should never ever sacrifice your soul for another, that is only damaging and hindering your own spiritual journey towards enlightenment and ascension.
You must drop all expectations and demands of others and look at your relationships, friendships, partners for who they truly are, honestly for what it is and how it is.
If you can do that, if you can drop the unhelpful thoughts, expectations, beliefs that do nothing for your relationships, it’ll pave the way for more compassion, understanding and real love to take their place. By dropping these thoughts and ultimatums, then life will begin to become very clear; our happiness never came from these things in the first place. It removes that heavy burden from our relationships and we can start to look at our life very differently. Our life experience will become very very different.
Fate’s arrow, when forced, kills all hope of penetrating your desired target.
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
You CAN manifest that happily ever after, one that is real, nurtured, healthy, nourishing, and safe. It just takes a slightly different reality and vibration to get there than what we may have been told or innocently and incorrectly believed up until now.
I had the most wonderful spiritual healer father that a girl could ask, for but I still had to learn some of life lessons the hard way. I am so full of love for all of my experiences, the good, the bad and the ugly because they taught me how to open my heart and truly love every part of myself. They taught me how to trust in myself, my abilities, my own strength and how to stand alone and need nothing else but myself. The words "I need" come from a place of lack, we don't need, we should only desire.
As a professional High Priestess, clairvoyant, medium, channeler and occult practitioner, I work with clients to help them tap into alternate planes of existence. Esoteric practices such as spell-casting are founded on the belief that the physical realm is merely a byproduct of unseen energetic forces, including our consciousness, thoughts, will, and emotions. While most thoughts become absorbed by our greater consciousness, others can become self-sustaining vibrations.
With greater understanding about the Law of Attraction and with the assistance of some of my appropriate mantras, chants and spells you will bring abundance and love into your life. You will find more information in my TAROT section.
Of course we cannot control others free will, ever, but we can work with the universe to magick wonderful positive experiences and souls.
I was always ok, I am ok, and I will always be ok.
Visualise all the stars, all of the cosmos assisting you to rise here in the matrix, sprinkling you in brilliant star dust, whispering in your ear that you are loved unconditionally and that the divine has your hand in his, connected by a long cord from the heavens right to your human vessel, linking you to your higher power.
" The best marriage is the one you have with yourself".
Love & Light
~MPOWERUSLEEZA~
